Do You Have the Vision for Your Marriage?
“Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4).
Do You Have the Vision for Your Marriage?
Good Morning and Godspeed to my dear Brothers and Sisters in the Lord. Once again it is good to know that we can live with clarity, and that we have tomorrow to look forward to. He is our purpose and reason for living. He makes us to succeed in life. Purpose has made us live in faith for what tomorrow will bring. We do not need to worry - we trust God for what He holds in tomorrow.
Have you ever thought of why God made you and what you are doing to accomplish your vision in life? Do you know why you exist?
Some people do not know the reason why they live and exist. That dilemma brings me to our subject for today. The focus of our discussion today is the existence of marriage. So, let’s go to work.
Marriage has never been just the coming together of two people. Actually, there is a collision of two histories. It is a clash of cultures, experiences, memories, and habits. One of the hardest adjustments anyone faces is moving from single life to married life. Before marriage, a man tries to win the heart of a woman. He studies her. He learns her likes, dislikes, habits and hobbies. Often in marriage, however, he stops learning about her. The mystery and challenge of knowing her seems less intriguing, and he finds his interests drifting to other areas. This is when problems may begin. I know firsthand when I got married, my wife had bothersome habits that annoyed me and really got to my nerves.
Therefore, marriage is the beautiful transformation into a new history. Building a strong marriage takes time. People do not change overnight. It requires patience and hard work. So let’s make sure we understand and talk about this. And may I remind you that marriage is more than just two people living together. When you marry, you are also marrying the person’s entire family and its complete history of experiences. That is why it is often hard at first to understand this person who is now sharing your home and your bed.
Both parties are bringing into the marriage more than 20 years or more of life experiences that color how one sees and responds to the world around them. We each bring our own emotional, psychological, and spiritual baggage. You quickly discover that you see many things quite differently from your spouse. We filter what we see and hear through the lens of our own experiences. You each have different viewpoints and ways to come to a conclusion - I know that you can agree with me on this point. Am I right? It is one of the biggest sources of stress and conflict in marriage.
Adjusting to these differences is critical to marital survival. Unfortunately, many marriages fail precisely at this juncture. Personal tragedy, physical and/or sexual abuses, quality of family life, sometimes education level, hope, or even of lack of hope, affect how we view the world around us. Our response to these experiences shaped our expectations of life before marriage. They also influence how we interpret what other people say or do to us.
Our spouses “hear” what we say through the experiences. A lot of patience and understanding is required to adjust to one another’s history. Do you remember the first time you met your spouse’s family? You saw how differently they look at things and how they run a home.
Over time and under the pressures of daily life, a husband and wife will come to understand each other more and more. They learn to be close. They learn to sense each other’s mood and often recognize what is happening with their spouse without even asking.
Their personal attitudes and viewpoints shift and move toward each other so that their mentality is no longer “yours” or “mine”, but “ours.” It is at this point when the gem-like quality of marriage shines more brilliantly. Therefore, marriage is the beautiful transformation into a new history. This cannot happen unless there is a vision for marriage. Through the course of our marriage, we had to have a vision for the marriage. In that, we learned to trust and understand each other. No longer were we trying to see who was right and who was wrong. The infusion of vision had created that oneness!
Let’s continue with studying our vision and how we can use it to direct us back to where we need to be. Let’s try to finish Principle # 4: The principle of possessing the passion for vision.
I want to talk about being faithful to your vision. You will know if your vision is from God when you are still pursuing it whether there is a storm or whether it is clear. Some of the people around you will be gone and not standing with you in your most needed time. That is why it is easy to get excited about a vision, but it is harder to be faithful to it. Talk is cheaper than action or works.
Now the Apostle Paul had amazing academic credentials. He was envied by the best. This gifted man had great power in the religious community. His father was a merchant and a Roman citizen. He could have remained a prominent Pharisee, a star in his profession, a first class “success” story. Paul had the opportunity to reap the benefits of being a Roman citizen. He could have lived an easy life. He was so set up to be successful that he could have made it in any category or profession. Yes, he really could have been a first-class success story. Instead, with his life Paul said, “I am going to jail. I am going to be whipped. I will go through a myriad of problems because the vision God showed me is more important than anything else in my life.”
If Paul, who had the respect of the community and could have had any job he wanted, was willing to go through all that, he had to have the vision. Paul was focused and determined to serve Jesus Christ. Here is my question to you: Can you put a list of tribulations after your name and say you have gone through what Paul went through for the sake of your vision?
Take time to think about this before you respond. My first thought is that I do not think I would have done it, with all that I know Paul had to face. The question is, why did he?
In Acts 26, Paul was on trial before King Agrippa. As he told the king about the purpose that Jesus Christ had given him on the road to Damascus, he made a statement that is very important concerning people with vision:
Then I asked, ‘Who are you Lord”’ ‘I am Jesus, whom you are persecuting,’ the Lord replied. ‘Now get up and stand on your feet. I have appeared to you to appoint you as a servant and as a witness of what you have seen of me and what I will show you. I will rescue you from your own people and from the Gentiles. I am sending you to them to open their eyes and turn them form darkness to light, and from the power of Satan to God, so that they may receive forgiveness of sins and a place among those who are sanctified by faith in me.’ (Acts 26:16-18).
Paul was clear about his vision. He previously had sought to persecute the church. Understanding vision and purpose made him willing to go through persecution himself for the sake of Jesus. Then Paul summed up his account by saying, “So then, King Agrippa, I was not disobedient to the vision from heaven” (v. 19). God had given him a clear guiding vision: to preach the Gospel to the Gentiles. Paul reiterated this vision to Timothy:
“For this purpose I was appointed a herald and an apostle - I am telling the truth, I am not lying, and a teacher of the true faith to the Gentiles.” (1 Timothy 2:7). That passion helped him to know that what he believed was bigger than what he could see.
Therefore, Paul knew what his purpose in life was, and that is what kept him going through all his struggles. Remember what I said, that when your vision is from God, there is nothing that can stop you. My friends, it doesn’t matter if people talk about you, or even if you are shipwrecked, beaten, and starved, if you are bent in accomplishing your vision. Because I know the meaning of what is at stake, I am committed to vision and God’s purpose for my life.
Passion is needed for vision. When you are truly passionate about your dream, you can stand strong when trouble comes. Passion will keep you moving forward. Passion is a desire that is stronger than death. You can’t sleep, eat, or stop until you satisfy it.
Let me tell you this - if you can stop what you’re doing and still be happy, then you are not passionate about it. If you can become discouraged and stopped by someone telling you “no” or the bank refusing to lend you money, then you are not passionate about it. Passion will confront every problem. Passion will cause persistence. Passion will leap every wall. If you are knocked down, passion will lift you up.
Let me give you a little insight. A passionate person will get up in the morning and say, “Good Morning, Lord, Good Morning, Jesus, Good Morning, Holy Spirit! Here I am! I thank You for another day that will take me closer to where I want to go.” Passion says that no matter how tough things are, what I believe is bigger than what I am seeing now. It will overcome any resistance. My goal to win is bigger than the desire to quit. There are many people who fail because they give up the first time they fall down. Some people stop too soon. Please do not stop at resistance. Just remember that passion says, “I am not going to quit.”
There is no life without passion. In closing, in Romans 1:14, Paul said that he was obligated to do the work that God told him to do. He just had to do it. It was God’s will for his life, and he was “eager to preach the gospel” (v. 5). and he couldn’t wait to do it. Have a great and a blessed week. Go with God!
Prayer: Father, thank You thank you for reminding us that, without a doubt, we can make it to the next day. We talked about marriage and it is a beautiful transformation of two people into a new history. We know that there must be the vision of God in the marriage. We know building our marriages require time, patience, and hard work. We have to rely on You to transform our individual relationships into oneness. Only then will we know the awesomeness of marriage. There must be passion for God in the vision of marriage. Paul knew that when he was talking to King Agrippa. He knew that he had a clear view of his vision and he was going to fulfill it no matter what it took. It is the same with our own lives. We thank You, oh God, for loving us, even when we misstep in our walk with You. I pray that whoever is reading this encouragement, will know the importance of setting their hearts on You. Thank You for Your Holy Spirit! He helps to reveal more of life to us. This is why my passion means that what I believe is bigger than what I see. Open the spiritual eyes of Your people so they can see more of You and Your revelation power, with Your Word and with the power of Your Kingdom. I pray that our passion for our vision overcomes resistance. I know, Father, that You are working in all of us. Let us have passion to fulfill what You have sent us here on earth to do. Bless Your people this week. May Your presence go with them, wherever they may be. May they have the passion to stay the course. Let them never give up on their vision. Let them have a win-win attitude to move forward and stand firm in Your Word. We pray this, In Jesus’ wonderful name, Amen!
Thought: Do not, do not give up!
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